Why Bother Sticking Around?

Because the gain is far more beneficial than the loss.

Why do we hang on to relationships, friendships, jobs, etc. after they no longer serve a purpose? As I said above, it’s because the gain is far more beneficial than the loss. Allow me to explain.

Let’s not sugar coat the facts here and accept the truth that love is not the sole motivation for individuals to stick together these days. According to author Bryant A. Buntin, in his book Dear Women I Haven’t Slept With, his main character notes that there are a few reasons people choose not to opt out of their relationship obligations such as financial and social motivations. Those reasons alone, in my opinion, are merely leaves on a tree rooted in fear. Fear of how we may appear to the outside world once our relationship falls a part. Fear of monetary loss – the ol’ cheaper to keep her mantra. Fear of starting over – the most common I’d like to think. Let’s stick with that for a moment.

More often than not, we lock ourselves into relationships because we fear starting over. It’s that fear of having to get back out there and actually interact with people, learn their likes and dislikes, and hope with everything in us that we get it right on the first try. It’s that same fear however, that holds us back from finding new happiness and keeps us drowning in resentment.

But let’s be very clear, not every dissatisfied person actually wants to be freed from their unhappy situation. Perhaps that’s the reason many individuals seek ways to satisfy their physical and emotional needs outside of their relationship. But, I digress. As I’ve said before, people love for different reasons and on different levels and are motivated by their circumstances. Don’t become blind to your partners dissatisfaction because of your own selfish desire to keep them around as a trophy piece. And vice versa, don’t hold on to a situation when you’d rather be elsewhere but stick around because of the perks and benefits. If you aren’t happy, do yourself and your partner a favor, lay your cards on the table and walk away gracefully.

– Yolanda Danae’

Reminder : As per last week’s announcement, #TheSassyRant is now a featured segment on #KrownNFR every Friday from 6-8pm. Our guest this week is Bryant A. Buntin, author of Dear Women I Haven’t Slept With. Be sure to tune in by downloading the Live365 app and searching NonFiction Radio – this is a show you don’t want to miss!