Often, I credit my work with The Sassy Rant, both blog and brand, to being something just for myself. And to some extent, that’s still a very accurate narrative. When you aren’t motivated by the majority, you have this sort of autonomy to produce authentic content. I love what I do, and the unfiltered creative freedom I’ve been afforded. And while I’d still do this with no one watching,  it always warms my heart when someone says, “I see you.”Last Sunday, I attended Fly Zone, a panel event hosted by my girl FLY, the Creator, Host and Visionary of The Fly Girl Collective and Creator of Fly Girl Boss Coffee. Following the panel, I had a chance to catch up with King Nilah, Creator of The FemceeMVMT and we talked a bit about my Cocktail Conversations panel (10/6) and her Femcee concert (11/11). While we’re mid-convo, she looked at me sincerely and said, “I see you.”

Later that night, I visited a friend who was in town that I hadn’t physically seen in months. We stood beneath the small veranda, talking and catching up, as the light fall of rain found comfort atop my Chevy. “I see you,” he said. “Your type gets overlooked because its not what’s ‘in’ but I see you.” Those who know me personally already know that in both instances, I got emotional.

When you’re doing work in this world and aren’t trying to be noticed, it touches your heart when someone says you’ve caught their eye. I’ll even go as far as to say it comes as a shock. Out of everyone putting in work and making a name for themselves on the scene, you notice what I’m doing in the background.

My time has arrived, and I’ve had this feeling for a while now. But it took for external confirmation in order for me to really accept it. Now here’s the part where I drop a deep, thought provoking line to draw this rant to a close…

Join me on October 6th for Cocktail Conversations, a panel discussing masculinity amongst men of color! Food and drink is included in your ticket price as are raffle tickets and gift bag. Visit to reserve your seat!

– Yolanda Danae’